I recently noticed that when people ask me what I do for fun, I got annoyed.
Like the other person is expecting a certain kind of answer.
I know that feeling annoyed is a signal not about them, but about *me*; about needing a boundary, and I realized that coming up with these answers felt like I was participating in something fake or was trying to prove something. I thought on it and realized that *everything I do is for fun.*
Walking my friends’ daughter to school.
Going through my inbox.
I do it all for the fun of it.
There is so little I do anymore that’s not fun.
Now, I don’t think everything is fun all the time. So, I try to do things when I’m available for them to be fun.
Having a house-cleaning dance party is really fun.
Even doing taxes is really fun for me in a brain-candy-I’m-a-boss-bitch kind of way, when I’m in the mood for it.
The last thing I did that I was deeply not having fun with, but forced myself to do
...was work tossed out by the person who requested it.
That was on *me* for not trusting myself.
For knowing it wasn’t aligned, and doing it anyway.
I know way better than that.
Our society has set up a default that fun is something that happens outside of everything else we have to do.
And yes, people have obligations.
I have an enormous amount of freedom.
Luck and privilege are a *huge* part of it.
Really fucking intentional discipline is another part.
I have been ruthless about constructing my life around fun and for creating fun in the mundane.
(“Ruthless” is one of my bestie’s words of the year. I just love its ferocity.)
I used to work with kids, and I noticed how dramatically better absolutely everything went when I was having fun.
So, I intentionally cultivate fun beforehand, when I’m wanting to be effective.
Last year, I set an affirmation alarm on my phone. Every day, at 3:59pm, I saw the message, “✨I have fun everywhere I go💃”
I can’t tell you how much fun I have doing mundane things out in the world. It is absolutely zero surprise to me, because I have *trained* myself for it.
I have the word fun in my client contracts. Because fun is a value that I have orchestrated my business (and life) around.
Yesterday here in Boulder, 10 people were shot and killed in a grocery store.
Yet another heartbreaking example of how much we don’t have control over.
Your life and time are so absolutely precious.
Emma Garrett is an Executive Career Coach, helping high-integrity leaders position themselves for what’s next in work and life. Ready to start doing things differently? Consider scheduling a free call to share your situation and goals or checking out the resources at www.emma-garrett.com.